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Now Is Not The Time To Give Up

In fact, just the opposite.

When things get tough, when pressures get high, when you feel stress, that is NOT the time to quit doing all the things that are good for you.

Eating well, exercising, singing, dancing, practicing daily gratitude, repeating mantras or affirmations, listening to positive music, reading interesting and uplifting books, watching videos of spiritual teachers, connecting with people who support you, spending time with animals or in nature, going to therapy, getting extra rest, meditating, praying… whatever you do to feel clear and peaceful, to get centered and grounded, these are the things you should double-down on when times get hard. 

And if you don’t have anything you already do, no practice whatsoever, now is a perfect time to start. There are thousands of free videos, meditations, mantras, and music on the internet. For less than $20 a month you can do unlimited yoga and other classes online, at home, with no equipment. You can walk in the sun, which is incredibly good for you (bonus if you have access to trees, bodies of water, nature, a pet to walk). You can call up a friend. You can do something to serve others (which is always nourishing to the soul!).

Stress just means that your inner resources are not up to the external challenges at the moment. Stress means an inner emotional trigger could be rearing its head. Stress means old negative patterns might be playing out. Stress means you might have got caught up in the crazy, busy mind and forgot about the ever-present calm center that is always available to you (if you know where to look). 

Of course, I’m talking about negative stress. Not the ‘healthy’ kind that means you are stretching to reach goals and putting yourself in new situations. Negative stress feels overwhelming and makes you want to shut down or freak out.

When your own shortcomings in the eyes of others do not matter any more, when your humiliation does not matter any more, then you are detached—not when you avoid the things that bother you.‘ – The Pathwork

In this new Age of Information, we also must become selective with what we look at and take in. We are all being bombarded by more information each day than our ancestors experienced in their entire lifetimes. We have to use our intellect for this, but it is also critical to develop the inner senses and intuition– to be able to quickly separate the lies from the truth, what is worthwhile from what is programming and agendas, who is trustworthy from who is not. 

There’s no going back from this intensification of information and general speeding up of everything, so we must adapt. And the positive side is a now global connection to others that is only possible through the technology that has become an integral part of our lives.

Here’s a secret few are taught as children, though they all should be: 

External challenges are catalysts. They provide us opportunities to heal, to deal with old pain, to face our inner demons, to work out relationship challenges, to learn and grow into our highest and best selves. We never stop facing catalysts. When we go ahead and deal with them, then the ones that seem to repeat over and over again (like negative life ‘themes’) WILL decrease or stop all together. 

Catalyst = Opportunity. 

And all we have to deal with is that which is front of us right now.

Past pain and trauma patterns will rear up over and over again until healed. It probably doesn’t feel like it, but you are being given a gift, a chance to do things differently, to learn, to find compassion for yourself and others. 

You may even be given the chance to learn to feel again. There is an epidemic of people who are shut down and emotionally frozen so they don’t know what they feel, or even that they can feel anymore.

The following are LAWS of this world. There are skills that go with each law. You can learn to move through pain— like walking through a dark tunnel— while at the same time knowing you are not the pain and that it is just energy moving. Then you come out into the light on the other side. It’s simple, though not always easy 🙂

Your sense of self creates your reality.

You are not your pain.

Your past repeats until changed.

Things happen FOR you, not to you.

Pain is the portal to transform back to wholeness.

Maybe you already know what you need to do take care of yourself and get back into alignment. Great, do it! Or keep doing it!

If not, then there is no time like NOW to start seeking what will help you. Seek and you shall find. It’s a law of the universe too 🙂

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The desire to know your own soul will end all other desires.’ – Rumi

The Five Steps/Laws/Skills

5 Laws

1.Your sense of self creates your reality.

2.You are not your pain (or thoughts or emotions), especially when you believe you are.

3.Your past repeats until changed. (As life patterns, and ‘themes’.)

4.Things happen FOR you, not to you. (Catalyst offers the gift of opportunity.)

5.Pain is the portal to reconnect and transform back to wholeness.

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5 Steps

1.Awareness

2.Detachment

3.Name, Own, Claim

4.Insight & link to the past

5.Transformation

5 Skills

1.Explorer’s Mind

2.Intention Line

3.Choice Point

4.Enlightened Observer

5.Core Being

This is an overview of one of the cornerstones of my Psychotherapy and Emotional Energy Transformation practice. You probably won’t learn how to actually transform emotional pain and suffering just by reading this! Until you are guided through the steps, and discover the inner experience, it will just be words on a piece of paper.

But when you learn to fully feel and allow emotions to move– while not getting lost in them– you will discover an inner anchor that is always there to support you, no matter the storm.

As you let the energy move, with awareness that you are not it, you uncover information, insight, and compassion that has been hiding from you in plain sight. This allows you to heal deeply, to claim your power, to re-pattern your nervous system, to overcome trauma permanently, and to stop coping.

When you discover how to reconnect to your true center, you discover the key to end all suffering.

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Autobiography in Five Short Chapters

By Portia Nelson

I

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost … I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.

II

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place
but, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

III

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit.
My eyes are open
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

IV

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

V

I walk down another street.

Copyright (c) 1993, by Portia Nelson from the book There’s A Hole in My Sidewalk.

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‘VIBRATION’ EXPLAINED

‘High’ vibration versus ‘low’ vibration’. What does ‘vibration’ mean? How to change your vibration? How do I raise my vibration? Vibration explained...

Everything has vibration, or frequency. Everything is waves of energy. This is not good or bad, it is just a fact. This is not a ‘spiritual’ concept. It is the nature of the universe. Higher doesn’t mean better than lower.

Everything is made of Universal Energy. Consciousness causes vibration. Waves carry information. ‘Changing your vibration’ changes your state of consciousness, changes your energy, changes your experience.

‘Lower’ vibration or frequency is slower, meaning the waves are longer/lower/wider. ‘Higher’ vibration or frequency is faster, meaning the waves are higher/narrower/closer together. All these wavelengths exist in the same ‘space’. It’s how a radio can tune into different frequencies that are unseen in the air around us.

In the visible light spectrum (which is what we can see), the colors change from red (low frequency) to purple (high frequency). White light is all the colors, which can be split, as in a prism. Though there are many, many vibrations/frequencies/wavelengths that we can’t see with our naked eye, we may still experience and use them. For example radio waves are lower frequency than we can see, and x-rays are higher than what we can see.

We also can hear vibrations. That is what sound is— vibration— a sound wave hitting our inner ear. These sound vibrations create patterns. The lower the frequency the simpler the patterns, the higher the more complex…

This video is a must-watch to see sound vibrations creating beautiful geometric patterns.
Here’s another video with the vibrations of music creating mesmerizing patterns. (Cymatics)

Even planets and stars vibrate and make unique sounds.

Planets have vibrations, and sounds, too.
As do stars…

There are also many sounds that we can’t hear, that are above and below human hearing range. Like scales on a piano, the notes keep going up higher and higher, and down lower and lower than the keys on the piano. Just because we can’t see or hear a frequency, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

Sound, like all vibrations, has the power to CREATE. It pays to listen to and become aware of the sounds that you make– your voice, your intonations, your words.

We humans have developed tools to detect many frequencies, but there are also many levels we don’t yet have the ability detect. We also tend to discount the ability of consciousness to detect, and affect, vibrations.

We all can FEEL vibrations in each other. We can automatically sense the difference between the Low Vibrational Consciousness (LVC) of shame, depression, and blame and the High Vibrational Consciousness of joy, peace, and love. Because all energy/consciousness has vibration, we ALL have the ability to detect emotions/energy/consciousness in others and ourselves, and this ability can become very accurate with practice. Like many technological devices, we are both receivers and emitters.

We also instinctively know what lowers our ‘vibration’, or state, or raises it, whether or not we ever considered it that way. Check out this chart, created by David Hawkins, which explains the levels of consciousness. Note how courage is the dividing line between ‘negative’ and ‘positive’. The scale is logarithmic, meaning the higher levels increase exponentially and have a far more powerful and far-reaching effect than the lower levels.

This means that one person with very high vibrational consciousness can have a powerful affect on many people. (Think of the Buddha, Jesus, and others who are still having an influence thousands of years after they lived. I’m talking about the beings here– not the religions and doctrines that followed.) This also means that you ‘raising your vibration’ has a positive effect beyond just your own experience. One ‘positive’ person can offset 90,000 to up to 70 million ‘negative people! This is why it has been said that meditation is your civic duty. 🙂

Not only can we feel vibrational states automatically, if we don’t know how to shift or maintain our own state (or vibration), then we might find ourselves automatically resonating with another, like tuning forks do. Watch here:

We, as humans, have the capacity for all the vibrations from ‘low’ to ‘high’ built into our human bodies and energy systems. The most balanced of us are connected to the ‘lower’ vibrations of the earth which keep us grounded AND the ‘higher’ vibrations of love, for example, which makes life a beautiful experience. What vibrations we experience are a matter largely of habit, since few of us humans have learned how to be conscious of, and to change, vibration.

In fact High Vibrational Consciousness can heal all sorts of problems (mental, emotional, physical and spiritual). We can each learn how to transform our energy patterns from lower to higher vibrations and heal ourselves. We learn to be aware of what we resonate with. And what we resonate with will naturally shift as our vibration changes. There is a universal law that Like Attracts Like. This means a high vibration resonates with and attracts positive things and experiences, and vice versa. To quickly shift from low vibration to high vibration, try simple gratitude. It is a very powerful tool.

As we learn to notice everything as just energy vibrating, we become able to ‘hold two places at once’. This means we become aware that we not the energy moving, it is just a temporary experience, constantly changing. Then we become able to observe with awareness, to feel anything, to lean into it, to let it flow, and allow it to transform. Because if allowed to move, without resistance or blocking, it will always return to its natural, positive, higher vibrational state. The natural state of all creation is the highest vibration. And we are that too. The cure for all that ails us is to discover how to reconnect to that Core Being, which is the highest vibration already.

Then it is like we are developing superpowers, because we begin to create consciously, with awareness, and the higher frequencies make transformation faster and easier than we ever imagined. It’s amazing, everything we ever needed was already within!

You might even say that this is our evolutionary path.

Aurora Borealis

‘By humbly and honestly admitting your hate and expressing it constructively, that is, assuming responsibility for it, your capacity to love grows commensurately. By willingly experiencing your fear, you grow fearless and secure. This is so because the apparently opposite feelings are one and the same energy current, appearing in different frequencies and degrees of condensation. The vibration changes as you discover the oneness of the opposites. The more you avoid a feeling, the less can you experience its other side. No hate, no pain, no fear is ever permanent, but love, pleasure, security, peace, and bliss are permanent conditions. Hate, pain, fear are but frozen energy, distorted consciousness.’ – The Pathwork

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Do You Make a Difference?

  • ONE individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of optimism and a willingness to be nonjudgmental of others will counterbalance the negativity of 90,000 individuals who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.
  • ONE individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of pure love and reverence for all of life will counterbalance the negativity of 750,000 individuals who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.
  • ONE individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of illumination, bliss, and infinite peace will counterbalance the negativity of 10 million people who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.
  • ONE individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of grace, pure spirit beyond the body, in a world of complete oneness, will counterbalance the negativity of 70 million people who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.

Read the full article by Wayne Dyer on the work of David Hawkins here.


This is the reason why it has been said that meditation is your civic duty 🙂

Working on clearing our emotional blocks also makes way for the higher vibrations which are our natural state.


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I look to the stars to feel the true nature of the universe reflected in me.

What do you do when you need to feel uplifted or to get a dose of inspiration?

Even if you have a hard time feeling inspired these days, that doesn’t have to be the way forever. You are not broken, you just lost your way for a little while. Maybe it’s time to find your way back?

Gazing at the stars at the Pannecière lake, in Morvan National Park, France.
What inspires you?

Emily Marshall practices Intuitive Psychotherapy and Emotional Energy Transformation in Boulder, Colorado. Her services are ‘Pay From The Heart’ because she believes everyone should have access to the therapeutic support they need. Online virtual sessions and in-person options available. More than talk therapy, this is personal transformation. Welcome to the end of suffering!