‘There is only Love and non-love.’– David Hawkins
One of the great contributions that The Three Principles brings to personal growth and psychotherapy, in my opinion, is the understanding they share around negative feelings.
It seems so contrary at first: We think if we are feeling bad, that something MUST be wrong, and often we try harder to fix it, or just give up and decide that it is a permanent state or problem, that it is ‘just reality’.
However, when you begin to watch yourself– just as an aware, impartial observer– you begin to notice that even if you have been depressed, you aren’t ALWAYS depressed. There are (small, fleeting) moments where you feel okay, even a little good.
You may also begin to notice that when you feel bad, you make bad decisions– like quitting a job in a fit of anger, staying in bed for days on end, or yelling at your kids after a stressful day of work.
The simple, but miraculous, understanding the 3Ps teach, is that when we wait for the bad feeling to shift– as it always does, like dark clouds moving across the sky– and we return to a good, or neutral, feeling, then we become available to solutions to problems, to fresh perspectives, to wise ideas.
Our natural state is this connectedness with full access to everything we ever needed. Yes it’s that simple.
Part of the human experience is to have dark clouds pass through, and the only problem is that consciousness makes it FEEL so real and lasting, like being thrown into a full special effects movie that is our life.
If we can learn to remember that the sun always comes back out, and the sun always rises in the morning– and we learn to wait for the sun to be out, so to speak, before reacting to others or making important decisions– our life just gets better and better.
It’s like when the red light comes on to tell you you are low on gas. You don’t give up in exasperation that you’ll never have gas again, and then go and break it off with your fiancé out of sheer desperation. You note the indicator on the dashboard and you put gas in your car. Period.
In the same way, when you are feeling dark or down it’s an indicator that you are not in your centered wholeness. So don’t make any important moves, because they won’t be the best for you.
The next time you are having a dark moment, just relax, trust that you are okay no matter what, and that it WILL pass. It always does. If you need to, take yourself out of the situation to cool off and get some perspective. (It can help to make deals with loved ones that you both will take a break when you start to struggle with each other, and won’t talk again until you both feel calm again.)
And then, in time, you can learn to observe those moments of inspiration you receive and to notice when they come along. I mean, those ‘aha!’ moments, those times when the perfect idea hits you like a lightning bolt, or when just the perfect, kind thing to say comes to you. (Hint: It’s always when you are clear and calm and connected to your center.) Then you can learn to cultivate these moments as a way of life.
Check out the Free Resources for Self-Help page to find my top picks for Three Principles books and videos, in addition to many other tools to help you on your journey to total health and well being.
And here’s a lovely bit of inspiration to help you shift to feeling just a little bit better. And when you do, notice how everyone and everything in your life ‘looks’ different to you.
‘When you worry, you make it double“…
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