#1 Info – A Relationship Tip
If you are wondering why you seem to be caught in a negative relationship cycle, or why a particular person consistently responds poorly to you, try this:
Become of aware of how you hold that person in your mind; the thoughts you have about them, the feelings you have about them. Now imagine that the other person knows those thoughts, just as if you spoke them out loud.
If they knew your thoughts and feelings about them, how would they respond to you? More often than not, you’ll see a direct correlation. Work on changing your inner experience of them, and watch the relationship transform. Try it!
# 2 Inspiration – What am I doing with my life?
Michael Grab Rock Balancing Art- Gravity Glue
So many of my 20-something clients are searching for a job they can do that they love and that is fulfilling. This is a beautiful example of someone who ‘followed their fascination’ to create their own livelihood in an unexpected and beautiful way.
#3 Inspiration- A quote that speaks Truth
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creativity there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: That the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it; boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.“
-W.H. Murray, a Scottish mountain climber and writer
#4 Info & Inspo- The Heart of Parenting
A must watch for parents of all ages, especially teenagers. Inspirational, uplifting and effective! George Pransky and Erika Bugee are a father-daughter team that teach The Three Principles, which is a method-free guide to living life with an open, quiet mind so that we each can connect directly to Infinite Intelligence and receive directly whatever guidance, inspiration and information we need. The video is about 1hr long, so kick back and watch when you have time to take it in.
#5 Info- A Self-Help Book Recommendation
The Five Personality Patterns by Steven Kessler (Amazon link here)
This book is already on the Resources for Self-Help page, but I wanted to give it an extra mention this week.
What pattern (or patterns, as many of us use two) do you and those close to you default to, especially when under stress:
Leaving, Merging, Enduring, Aggressive or Rigid?
These Characterological Types go back to the era of Freud. Not from him directly, but his student (Reich, and then Lowen) branched out and developed this system of categorizing human coping patterns in a way that can be very helpful in psychotherapy and personal transformation.
Steven Kessler’s book is an easy to read ‘pop psychology’ book that clearly explains the positive and negative sides of each pattern. He also renames the five character styles to be more more kind and clear, versus the old, harsh Germanic psychology-based names (Schizoid, Oral, Masochist, Psychopath and Rigid). Yikes!
For those that have read The Five Personality Patterns and want to delve deeper, I recommend the books by Stephen M. Johnson, such as Characterological Transformation: The Hard Work Miracle, Humanizing the Narcissistic Style, and others. (Note that he also uses different names for the patterns. Pretty much everyone does, but the underlying patterns remain the same.)
I use this in my practice to better understand my clients and to help them better understand themselves and their relationships with others. Why does my boyfriend always threaten to leave me when he gets upset? Why does it often feel like my mother is sucking my energy? Why does my sister get so stubborn and won’t let me do anything for her? Why am I so quick to rise to a fight? If you read the book, you’ll quickly be able to identify the people in your life in the five patterns and you will gain insight into your interactions.
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